Practicing self love as a mother and a wife…


free Practicing self love as a mother and a wife, is a hard concept to grasp and an even more daunting task when mixed with guilt. When Matt and I first married he pointed out to me on several occasions that I never thought of myself, ever… I just dismissed it because for so many years I had been a single mother and had not had the luxury of caring anything about myself because I felt if I even stopped with the task at hand and all I was juggling every ball I had in the air would fall and I would fail and I fail my kids fail. So I was overworked, hair a mess, health a mess, wardrobe a mess… (what clothes hahah), everything that defined me as a person.. an autonomous person aside from my children.. well I didn’t exist. So he demanded that I start taking care of me for a change. I was so angry at him every time he made me purchase something for me. Every time he would spend our hard-earned money on nail certificates, hair certificates, other things. Finally month after month I began to look forward to those little treats. I began to be a better mother and a wife because I was giving the best to myself so I was able to present the best of me to them. I now still wrestle with guilt each and every time I sat down in a salon chair I feel like I don’t have the time or the money to get my nails or hair done, or go to the cosmetic aisle to get cosmetics we could really use this for something else. But I have learned that I matter too and if I am not happy how can I expect to teach my children how to take care of their selves and  how to live a happy life if I can’t practice what I teach? I am a much happier person, the selfishness I thought I would be portraying if I bought things for myself  and take care of me was wrong. I was displaying a person who gives up everything for the love of another that is not the way love is supposed to be and I don’t want that for them. So by practicing self-love I am teaching my child confidence, self-love, So they can be the best person they can be for them selves and the persons whom they choose to share their lives with.  So drink  a big ole cup of self-love today and give yourself the best so you can give others the best… yes you… and guess what you deserve it.