Crunchy parenting ? Permissive? Uninvolved? Authoritarian? Continuum Concept? Which style are you?


tree First off lets ask you this question are you a “crunchy parent” or an “instinctive Parent” , Permissive? Authoritarian, Continuum? Maybe you don’t know. What sets these types of parenting apart? And maybe you are a combination parent. So let’s get started in all these  very different parenting styles and what the experts are saying and what some parents that practice these style’s have to say about why they practice this particular style. 

“Crunchy Mom/Dad” With this  parenting style parents practice some or all of the following while caring for their children:

  • Attachment Parenting
  • Co-Sleeping
  • Baby Wearing
  • cloth diapering
  • Elimination communication
  • natural birth
  • home birth
  • water birth
  • delayed cord clamping (didn’t practice this)
  • breastfeeding
  • extended breastfeeding (not me on this but breastfeeding yes I did but only 6 months )
  • delayed vaccination
  • selective vaccination
  • vaccination exempt
  • holistic medicine
  • alternative health
  • Veg/Vegan
  • Tree Hugging drug free Hippy Mama
  • Homeschooling/Unschooling
  • Natural Products
  • Toxin Aware
  • Plastic Free
  • No Cry It Out
  • No Spanking
  • Peaceful parenting
  • Minimalist
  • Free Range Children
  • Child Led learning
  • TV Free (Not my family, but  still very limited we didn’t own a TV until I married Matt! lol)
  • Limited Media
  • Eco-Friendly Home
  • Buy WAHM
  • Buy Small Business
  • Buy Local
  • Travel Green (On foot or Bike or bus)
  • Organic Gardening
  • Buy Organics First
  • Poison Free Homes
  • Midwife Care
  • No Circumcision
  • Handmade
  • Activism
  • Human Rights / Animal Right
  • Active Parenting
  • Respect for Nature
  • Out Door Learning
  • Sustainable Living

The List Goes on… starting to sound more and more like my style…

  • Squat birth
  • Breast-crawl
  • Montessori schooling
  • Placenta encapsulation/eat (this one is gross no fricking way!!!!)
  • Mason Jar Love
  • Baby food making
  • Toxin Free Mattresses
  • Very health aware
  • Essential Oils
  • Kombucha  Drinking
  • Yogurt Making
  • Car seat specialists

Wool and Yarn Lovers…

References and Resources grabbed from: (Love this blog!)

What is Crunchy Parenting?

I have to laugh this sounds just like me! I never knew what it was called I have always parented this way. Now what experts if any are they basing their methods on with “Crunchy Parenting”? William Sears a leading pediatrician slides in on this parenting style with his theory on “Attachment Parenting” his theory /parenting philosophy explores and concludes that : 

is a parenting philosophy based on the principles of attachment theory in developmental psychology. According to attachment theory, the child forms a strong emotional bond with caregivers during childhood with lifelong consequences.[2] Sensitive and emotionally available parenting helps the child to form a secure attachment style which fosters a child’s socio-emotional development and well-being. Less sensitive and emotionally unavailable parenting or neglect of the child’s needs may result in insecure forms of attachment style, which is a risk factor for many mental health problems (e.g. depression, anxiety and eating disorders).[3][4] In extreme and rare conditions, the child may not form an attachment at all and may suffer from reactive attachment disorder.[5] Children who suffer from reactive attachment disorder have often experienced extremely traumatic childhoods with a lot of neglect and abuse. An example of such a case is for children in orphanages in Romania where babies have been known to be left for 18–20 hours by themselves in their cribs.[6] This is a very rare occurrence, however, and most children have formed at least some kind of attachment style. Principles of attachment parenting aim to increase development of a child’s secure attachment and decrease insecure attachment.

When parents are taught to increase their sensitivity to an infant’s needs and signals, this increases the development of the child’s attachment security.[7] Sears’ specific techniques of attachment parenting remain under study.

Refer to this link: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_parenting

Then there is Continuum parenting style/philosophy see just when you thought crunch and instinctive, permissive… oh my the list goes and goes but lets go in to continuum first I was love struck with this:

“The Continuum Concept (is a book written by Jean Liedloff) after she spent long periods of time in the jungle of Venezuela, living with the Yequana tribe. She observed their way of life, how the children were raised, and how the people were the happiest she had ever witnessed. She surmised that this happiness came from the children being raised in line with their evolutionary expectations, and that in the western world, these expectations are often not met, which interrupts the continuum. This causes us to become stuck, unable to reach our full potential and happiness, as we strive to meet those unmet needs.”

“Continuum parenting is,  parenting as nature intended. It is what you might find if there were no experts, no books just us.. parenting…”

“The primary message of the Continuum Concept is that children are social beings who want to meet the expectations of their parents and that If we expect them to be kind, helpful and trustworthy, they will work to meet those expectations. If on the other hand we expect the worse out of them, then they will  be the worst, unable to break away from their evolutionary impulse to meet their parents expectations of them”.

Reference’s and Resources: 

http://loveparenting.org/2013/02/25/continuum-parenting-and-attachment-parenting-whats-the-difference-and-what-is-love-parenting-really-all-about/

Now lets dive into “permissive parenting philosophy can’t stand the thought of this style no judging it just worries me about the type of adult this would produce but I have not researched the outcome study so that was just an opinion flying outta my mouth… sorry:

“Indulgent parenting, also called permissive, non-directive or lenient, is characterized as having few behavioral expectations for the child. “Indulgent parenting is a style of parenting in which parents are very involved with their children but place few demands or controls on them”. Taken from Wiki..

What expert is behind this philosophy? The most popular ideas about parenting style stem from the work of Diane Baumrind. In the 1960s, Baumrind was interested in the different ways that parents attempted to control or socialize their kids –

Then there is Authoritarian parenting, this type of parenting emphasizes the  blind obedience, stern discipline, and controlling children through punishments–which may include the withdrawal of parental affection. 😦 I don’t like this one…..it makes my heart ache for the children…

Another similar parenting style that also rubs me the wrong way is:

 Uninvolved parents: Similar to permissive parents in their failure to enforce standards. But unlike permissive parents, uninvolved parents are not nurturing and warm. They provided kids with food and shelter, but not much else. Who discovered this or is it based off: (Maccoby and Martin 1983).

This one isn’t too bad I may have a bit of this in my parenting style:

Authoritative parenting, a more balanced approach in which parents expect kids to meet certain behavioral standards, but also encourage their children to think for themselves and to develop a sense of autonomy.

Resources and References: 

(I loved this article)

– See more at: http://www.parentingscience.com/parenting-styles.html#sthash.XikqugPp.dpuf

Instinctive Parenting: what  might be called the “old school” method of parenting, “intuition” or simply a feeling of “go with your gut.”  Jo Frost describes instinctive parenting as “very much your own personal style of parenting, usually influenced by your own upbringing.” In other words, as an instinctive parent you’re more likely to teach what you know and parent the way you were parented, whether you were brought up by your mother and father, siblings or another caregivers. In this type of parenting you will witness the “crying out method”  , “Camping out” and “Adult fading” in which these are described as “controlled-comforting methods” in direct relation to the Ferber Method I will be discussing all these various methods in much more depth in some future articles to come: 

Pediatrician Richard Ferber is the founder and former director of the Center for Pediatric Sleep Disorders at Children’s Hospital in Boston. Since the publication of his book Solve Your Child’s Sleep Problems in 1985, he’s become known as a leading – and controversial – expert on children’s sleep.

Chances are you’ve heard about Ferber’s method for teaching babies to soothe themselves to sleep – a method so closely associated with him it’s often called “Ferberizing.” This method and variations on it are also referred to as “cry it out,” although he never calls it that.

Over the years, Ferber’s method of sleep training has sparked controversy among parents, pediatricians, and sleep experts alike: Some swear by the Ferber approach, while others claim that it creates lifelong emotional scars. It’s also often exaggerated and misunderstood.

References and Resources on Ferber taken from:

http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-ferber-method-demystified_7755.bc

This theory was discussed by super nanny Jo frost and a book was written by : Ada Calhoun. Exploring this parenting style.

This one it made me laugh out loud, my being a mother of four when would I have the time to be this kind of parent? Would I drown in all their drama? I laugh too because I love my dear dad but he is definitely a Helicopter dad even with my being 42… lol 

Helicopter parenting

“Helicopter parents constantly interact with and often interfere with their children’s lives. They hover like a helicopter,” explains Frost. While helicopter parenting is fairly normal to ensure the safety and security of babies and very young children, be forewarned — smothering your child in every aspect of their life can ultimately backfire. “Too much of this style of parenting and children can become dependent on their parents’ money, time and advice past their college years and into their professional careers,” says Frost.

Resources and References taken from: (great source)

http://www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/819528/5-parenting-styles-for-a-new-generation

Now with all these parenting styles which one are you? Do you lean more one or the other or a combination? I will supply you with the outcome studies with different sources and links to help you decide just in case you want to change or you are expecting… this may help you decide which way to help screw up your children and how many hours they might spend on the couch in a shrink’s office…

http://www.parentingscience.com/parenting-styles.html

http://www.teendriversource.org/stats/support_teens/detail/86

Okay this last resource is a bit of a read… grab coffee if you wanna tackle this.. I like the funnier ones above but for the scholarly types:

http://digitalcommons.liberty.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1177&context=doctoral

In my next up and coming article that I have been writing and  researching , I will be exploring the subject of natural child-birth and pregnancy/versus clinical pregnancy and birth and combinations. Yay!