Let’s Talk


Let’s talk… The opening no husband or wife wants to hear. But through out our relationship we will hear that one or more times. This statement is as scary as waking a baby in the middle of the night. It can range from..  a simple “You forgot to take out the garbage for the millionth time” to I am leaving you, or I am gay// a dreaded quote from hubby. or wifey.

So how we handle this statement is as important as the statement it’s self. Now if you are in the position that is “I am leaving you, I don’t love you anymore, I am gay, we are broke, I lost all our money… I suggest letting them finish even though in your mind you have already killed them 20 different ways. Next ask if you can respond..

Now this is tricky because you are most definitely have killed them 40 ways in your mind by now, your are so angry and hurt the tears are stinging your eyes, your stomach is in a knot and you can’t hear anything but your heart pounding in your ears and your are waiting for it to stop, and the last words they said still ringing in them.. so slow down.. think of how much you love them… think of how you want their happiness and love too. Start with questions. Let them answer. Now ask what can we do.. Now after the conversation has ended ask if you can take a few minutes to step out… Now… Go where you can.. scream, cry if you have to… throw up if you need to, wash your face.. Look in the mirror…

Now again think of how much you love them and how much you want them to be happy. Now think of what they said is there anything you can help them with, change for them.. not talking about yourself changes.. unless you are a cheating raging bi**. then please change.. Now after you have thought about it. Go back in there fighting like a champ for them.. Unless they say… THere is nothing you can do its over .. Now you must, can, and will go on…